Love your insight re defensiveness: I have a bucket full of it that I dip into more frequently than I’d like to admit; Your thoughts influenced my thinking about the affect of defensiveness–it’s really the “flip side” of effectiveness even in personal relationships (vs the more multi-faceted interactions in business that you help people with); I tend to push my “good ideas” as an officer in a club I’m in because my ideas are highly valued from my experience…etc. However, I can take advantage of the situation and then I see my effectiveness weakened when I defend my view too strongly & notice my “popularity” fading…I then of course beat myself up about it because I want to be loved by all people at all times (which is completely realistic : ). I like that you aren’t afraid to reveal it in yourself in your blog.

PS: I’m very impressed with your revised site; I like your green globe and “work in progress” branding; and your sassy pics show you with positive energy; (don’t quite get the significance of the “green” though in connection with wip; Maybe you explain & I didn’t catch that)
(I need revamp my site big time but haven’t made it a priority yet-it’s just an electronic biz card right now)
Cheers, Cheryl